The Art of Losing Control
It's tempting to compensate for a spouse's distraction and disorganization by exerting control. Do so at your own peril.read more
View ArticleSleep Your Way to a Better Relationship
We don't pay enough attention to the role that sleep plays in a healthy relationship.read more
View ArticleThe Best Way to Say I'm Sorry
Made a big mistake? Don't just explain why - at least not at first. Here's what makes a great apology.read more
View ArticleADHD and Death by One Thousand Cuts
If you are a spouse with ADHD you may be disappointed or angry that your non-ADHD partner hasn't noticed all the improvements you've been making in your relationship and ADHD treatment. Here's what may...
View ArticleWhy Therapists Need to Understand the Role of Adult ADHD in Marital Dysfunction
ADHD impacts about 5-7% of adults, making it one of the most common mental health issues adults face. More importantly, research suggests 58% of relationships in which one or both partners has ADHD are...
View ArticleFeeling Defensive? Seven Communication Tips for ADHD Marriages
Suggest a spouse has ADHD and he or she may get defensive. These seven tips can help.read more
View ArticleChanging the Story of Your ADHD
"Story editing" is a technique which can help couples struggling with the impact of ADHD in their relationship more accurately describe their situation and create a roadmap for a happier future.read more
View Article10 Tips for a Better Relationship in 2012
Making a New Year's resolution to use these simple ideas can help you spruce up your relationship in 2012.read more
View ArticleEight Tips for More Loving Conversation
With a little extra effort and time, busy and distracted couples can make striking improvements in how well they communicate with each other.read more
View ArticleAbout Ritalin, Scare Tactics, and Medications for Kids with ADHD
Ritalin and other stimulant medications used to treat ADHD continue to be a political football, a hot-button issue in which parents are asked to be either "for" them or "against" them. In this...
View ArticleAre People with ADHD Lazy?
Do you see your ADHD partner or your child's inability to finish what he started as a sign of laziness or selfishness?read more
View ArticleAdult ADHD and the Sexless Marriage
Couples in ADHD-impacted relationships need not suffer in sexless marriages.read more
View ArticleEverybody Has ADHD! No, They Don't
People who have ADHD are confronted by media articles or other people who think that ADHD is just an excuse - a case of having too much to do "just like everyone else," or being lazy in a busy world....
View ArticlePressing the ADHD 'Reset' Button
Some ways are better than others when it comes to improving focus and managing the everyday overwhelm of their ADHD. Here's one strategy - creating a "recalibration" routine.read more
View Article6 Big Relationship Busters — Are You Doing Them?
Without realizing it partners can easily fall into behaviors that undermine the health of their relationship. Ask yourself: am I engaging in any of these six relationship busters?read more
View ArticleADHD Man's Dilemma: Is Something Wrong with My Wife?
Tired of feeling as if your partner isn't tuned in to your emotional needs? It may be easy to overcome this issue once you better understand an ADHD characteristic that could be impacting you both.read...
View ArticleWhen Work Interferes with Love
It can be lonely when your partner is engulfed in work and has little time for you. These strategies can help you remain happy, healthy and (with a bit of effort from your partner) connected.read more
View ArticleWhat They Love About Their ADHD Spouses
Spouses tell what they love about their ADHD partners, highlighting some important positive ADHD traits. Remembering the good while highlighting the effectiveness of ADHD treatment can give struggling...
View ArticleRelationship Basics 101
Flipping off your spouse or screaming and yelling are not what loving relationships are supposed to be about. These relationship basics remind couples where they need to focus to get back on track.read...
View ArticleSimple Advice That Will Change Your Relationship Forever
Being 'someone you like' comes with some very real advantages, particularly if you are trying to repair a struggling relationship.read more
View ArticleADHD Doesn't Cause Divorce, Denial Does
It's easy to blame adult ADHD for the higher rates of dysfunction and divorce couples with one or more ADHD partners experience. But ADHD is very treatable. Lack of diagnosis and denial are the real...
View Article50 Ways NOT to Leave Your ADHD Lover
Paul Simon may sing about ways to leave your lover, but what about ways to stay with him or her? Here are 50 immediately usable tactics that help couples impacted by ADHD strengthen their...
View ArticleADHD Adults: "What It Feels Like to Have ADHD"
Those without it tend to underestimate the overwhelming nature of the experience of having ADHD. These first person accounts provide eye-opening insight.read more
View ArticleADHD Relationships: When Helping Out Hurts Your Partnership
Do you worry that your ADHD partner seems more like another child than a partner? Or do you feel as if your partner is constantly nagging or reminding you to get things done? You may be suffering from...
View ArticleA First Step to Becoming Partners Again
As adults with ADHD struggle to stay organized and complete tasks, their non-ADHD partners tend to overcompensate and take on too much. This leads to an unhealthy imbalance of power between partners...
View ArticleThe 5 Ways Not to Talk to Your Partner
Struggling partners can get so caught up on the importance of communicating their most heartfelt feelings that they forget that good communication is both about what you say and how (and when) you say...
View ArticleThe Tension Hidden in ADHD-Impacted Relationships
The symptoms of ADHD result in behaviors that may strike at the heart of healthy relationships. Couples who understand the tension between symptoms and expectations will be more equipped to unravel the...
View ArticleHe Never Plans a Date!
Should women take over all responsibility for planning dates when a partner's ADHD gets in the way?read more
View ArticleOvercoming Relationship Inertia
Here's a conundrum with getting an ADHD evaluation: Often the partner who suspects he or she has ADHD has the classic symptoms -- including procrastination. This inhibits his ability to follow through...
View ArticleWhat Role, Obligation?
An obligation to stay together can lead couples to accept - and reinforce - a negative or dysfunctional relationship. Instead of "waiting it out," seek help.read more
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